MOTIVATION (True story):

              A beautiful girl named  Anjeela full of dreams in her eyes went to peruse higher secondary school certification. She was very excited to visit new school and friends. She struggled day and night to score good grades and to meet her family expectations. Meanwhile she became very active in outdoor activities and became favorite student of all teachers. she felt very positive changes in her personality and was very thankful to God for many blessings upon her. Two years passed and she completed her higher secondary certification. All her best friends were sad for going back home but Anjeela was super excited this time that she was going to another city for her graduation. Excitement sparked in her eyes and motivation level was boosted double. She went to new city and then availed scholarship for abroad studies. Her eyes brightened with   more excitement and she went to international travel for studies. she put her all efforts to do best in all subjects and spent her four years in international university. She was again very excited to return back to her own country to achieve a good position job. But all her expectations turned into darkness so suddenly when she recognized that what she has studied has no value in her own country. She did not give up tried to achieve any job for time being but she did not get satisfaction. one year passed and she became dull and demotivated about the changes she was suffering. she waited for good time but that motivation level was not so supportive this time. she was fed up of everything and became a depressed person. Anjeela started taking sleeping pills to get rid from night mares that scare her about future. she committed suicide and killed all her dreams. 

     Hence motivation is very important for survival otherwise life becomes boring like Anjeela's life.

OWN BUSINESS OR A JOB???

         Although job is compulsory for every degree holder but what benefits more a person is a big debate. Going for a job means going for salivary and going for a business means a king or queen is creating something out of nothing. Being a creator is worthier than walking on an already existing path. Everyone knows the people work for money. Everyone wants limitless money although in job there is limited money but in business there is limitless money. People doing job get fixed salary and while own business holder earn handsome money. Then comes time issues with job people fix themselves with fix intervals while in business a person can work more or less enjoying flexible time. There are your own rules in your business and a businessman can develop many good rules for the prosperity of business because you are your own boss no one is there to ask anything while in job a person is restricted to follow rigid rules. There is retirement issue with job that is the point to think about but in business you don't have to face such issues because in your own business it’s up to you if you want to retire or not. A salaried person fails to have their own identity sometimes but when you are businessman then you have your own identity which makes you different from other world. Business doers never have to wait for holidays they can go on vacations anytime they want; but in job you have to wait for holidays or weekends to get break from work burden.In business, a person learn new things because you have more than one responsibilities which make you more active than a job holder. Businessman learns how to run a team to get best results and you can also learn how to satisfy clients. So own business is better than a job.

SOCIAL MEDIA AS SOCIAL DISASTER FOR YOUTH:

This piece of writing revolves around the impact of an excessive use of social media on youth without proper training. It will elaborate how social media without proper training is a disaster for youth particularly. The term social disaster actually describes the negative impact of social media on youth’s life.

Key terms used are, youth, social media, technology, (internet, face book, twitter, Instagram , Skype, changing’s in attitude.

 INTRODUCTION:

Pakistan is a resourceful country but unfortunately we are badly managed nation. Introduction of technology in  country Pakistan like without training is a social disaster. Technology is the use of science to invent useful things to solve problems to make communication easier technology introduced social media fortunately but this social media played a role of social disaster unfortunately in every individual’s life specifically the young generation named as youth. Access to internet is an opportunity but excessive use of internet is the cause for social disaster. Today’s youth is highly addicted to social media spending whole days on Facebook, twitter, Instagram etc. Searching on internet is useful when purpose is to study E Books, journals, articles but spending hours on useless chat, video calls is social disaster.

Social Disaster:

Social media as social disaster means the force that creates disturbance in society and disturb the norms and values of society. Youth who are highly addicted to social media are forgetting their family value system. Youth feel more comfortable in spending time on social media instead of sitting with family members. Family gatherings, sharing happiness’s and taking parts in sorrows are becoming less interesting and less attentive for the youth. Youth has found social media as a family and giving less attention to the real relations and family. A time will come where youth could feel frustration to enter into home under same roof because youth has started developing perception that everything is social media. They feel like social media is even a good friend of theirs.

Youth:

Here youth mean the youngsters who are school, college and university going students. Who are in a stage where training and counselling is important rather than giving free access to social media? This young youth is immaturely using a very mature technology. In real terms this social media is using our youth.

Changing attitude:

Relationship with a living and none living thing both influence the interacted person either in a positively or in a negative manner. Talking about youth’s interaction with social media; it is changing the attitude of our youth in a negative way. Youth don’t have time to eat study and spare time with family members properly. This will develop a gap between parents and youth there will be less understanding. Occurrences of such Changing’ in youth’s behavior is a social disaster  

LITERATURE REVIEW:

Dynamic new time-diary data identify when and where Internet use impacts face-to-face interactions. Internet use at home has a strong negative impact on time spent with friends and family as well as time spent on social activities, but Internet use at work has no such effect. Similarly, Internet use during weekend days is more strongly related to decreased time spent with friends and family and on social activities than Internet use during weekdays (NORMAN H. NIE D. SUNSHINE HILLYGUS).

The hypothesis is quite simple: the Internet has created a shift in people’s time allocation. The more time they sit in front of a computer screen, the less time they have for interacting directly with family and friends. This “displacement” model holds that time on one activity simply cannot be spent on another activity, since time is a zero-sum phenomenon. Because there are only 24 hours in a day, time spent on one activity must often be traded off against time spent on other activities. Like any activity, time online fundamentally competes with, rather than complements, face-to-face social time (NORMAN H. NIE D. SUNSHINE.

CONCLUSION:

The styles differ when controlling for parent gender, educational background and age. Parenting styles are also linked to level of parent Internet usage, Internet attitude and Internet experience. Parenting styles also significantly affect child Internet usage. The highest child usage level is perceived when parents adopt a permissive parenting style; the lowest level is observed when parents adopt an authoritarian Internet parenting style. The variables Internet parenting style, parent Internet behavior, and parent educational background significantly predict Internet usage of children at home.

 Social media is using our youth and our youth is unable to use social media properly. Until and unless a proper training is not given to youth they will not be career oriented will just move randomly in fantasy. Question is How to train youth although purchase of social media is their own choice? 

Does a social medium use us or do we use it?

I was very happy with social media at the very beginning and it’s a matter 2007 when I started using orkut.com to connect with friends. I started sign in twice a day then thrice a day and a time occur when I started using it so frequently that even I forgot to eat and drink. I stopped moving towards books and homework’s and a time came when I stopped even sleeping without realizing that the orkut that actually i consider my friend is not so in reality. I was with a perception that I am using social media couldn’t know that actually this orkut is using me. It’s controlling my life style and all the good behaviours that I posses. The social networks were necessary evil, and as such, they must be managed, just like every other distraction in our lives. I still have my days when I find myself aimlessly surfing Face book, looking at what people are doing getting into conversations, playing. I allot time in my day to look at my social networks, but I allot much more time in my day to read. And most importantly, I have that sacred four hour stretch—twelve to four, five days a week—that is dedicated to nothing but putting words on paper. Then I quit and tried to avoid it but I came to know about face book that initially made me avoid facing my own books. The modified social media inform of face book was more attractive than orkut even. I experienced same things wastage of time, moving away from books. Then again I quit from face book. After some time again I login into face book and found it so useful that I got admission in a prestige university from an AD on face book. I realized that since 2007 when I started using social media this social media was using me. Was distracting I from being a good person diverted my mind from studies and daily routine but then I managed with face book. Today for me social media marketing is the “next big thing,” a temporary yet powerful fad that must be taken advantage of while it’s still in the spotlight. To others, it’s a buzzword with no practical advantages and a steep, complicated learning curve.

Depression

Definition from different perspectives

First:

A great many people feel on edge or discouraged now and again. Losing a friend or family member, landing let go from a position, experiencing a separation, and other troublesome circumstances can lead a man to feel pitiful, desolate, terrified, apprehensive, or on edge. These emotions are typical responses to life's stressors.

Yet, a few individuals encounter these emotions day by day or almost day by day for no clear reason, making it hard to go ahead with ordinary, regular working. These individuals may have an uneasiness issue, despondency, or both.

It is not unprecedented for somebody with a tension issue to likewise experience the ill effects of wretchedness or the other way around. About one-portion of those determined to have sorrow are likewise determined to have a nervousness issue. The uplifting news is that these issue are both treatable, independently and together.

Second:

Everybody once in a while feels blue or tragic. Be that as it may, these sentiments are normally brief and go inside of two or three days. When you have dejection, it interferes with day by day life and reasons irritation for both you and the individuals who think about you. Discouragement is a typical however genuine sickness.

Numerous individuals with a depressive disease never look for treatment. Be that as it may, the lion's share, even those with the most serious wretchedness, can show signs of improvement with treatment. Solutions, psychotherapies, and different routines can successfully treat individuals with discouragement.

Third:

Depression is a temperament issue that causes a relentless sentiment trouble and loss of hobby. Likewise called real depressive issue or clinical discouragement, it influences how you feel, think and carry on and can prompt an assortment of enthusiastic and physical issues. You may experience difficulty doing typical everyday exercises, and now and then you may feel as though life does not merit living.

More than only an episode of soul, melancholy isn't a shortcoming and you can't just "snap out" of it. Unhappiness may require long drag treatment. Be that as it may, don't get demoralized. The vast majority with gloom feel better with drug, mental advising or both.

Make yourself interesting

           Being interesting is one’s ability to positively stimulate another person to make one more attractive and thought provoking. It is a very vital characteristic as it is the foundation for relationships and affiliations. The person whom you spend most of the time is yourself so try to make yourself interesting.

       Being an interesting person is not hereditary but it can be learnt and practiced. It is a characteristic that can be regularly work on and develop through experience. It is developed through being who you are and by getting in touch with something which is inside all of us.

Human being is interesting if he is honest. Take challenging hobbies and push yourself to your limits and tact with him. The reason that many people fail to become interesting is that they do not trust themselves; they worry too much over small things. Every individual can be interesting if he smile and laugh more and it is a favor as it reduces stress too. People can be interesting if they are honest and initiative then challenge yourself to improve. Be natural and true to yourself and try to build a genuine image. Incorporate everything you do into your true self. Do not take yourself so seriously always. Grow up and deal with your responsibilities properly to be interesting. Always be learning and convert your weaknesses to your strengths. 

 SECRETS OF HAPPINESS

                 Happiness is mental and emotional state of well being related to positive emotions. Happiness is small things happening around you that bring a smile on faces.

Happiness can be learned by finding meaning and purpose to life. People can be happy if they accept what they have. Instead of complaining about things that happen to us, enjoy with what you have.

Other way to be happy is enjoy what you do. Happy people do what they enjoy and enjoy what they do.

            Apart from that people may become happy if they live for today. Do not dwell on the past, on things that went wrong and failures. But do not dream about an idealized future that does not exist. Do not worry about what hasn't happened yet. Happy people live for now with their positive mind sets.

Choose happiness always go for the right thing. Do not be afraid to step back to re evaluate your goals. Flexible approaches can bring positive things and happiness.

Take a good care of your relations. To be happy relationships are important.  We get our happiness from other people, and from supporting other people. Remember that just as other people can make us happy, we are all ‘other people’ to someone else.

Try to be busy to be happy. Develop an outgoing, social personality.

           So happiness is small things happening around you which you didn't notice while you were busy planning your next promotion, project presentation, exam preparation, job hunt, wedding planning, purchase of property etc and in the end you are left with lists of achievements or failures you confuse with happiness.